Pregnant daughter

[erin70]

Hi all......this is the first time I have posted. My name is Erin, I'm from australia, and where were Danny and Sheri Silk 19 years ago!! I have a daughter, 19 and pregnant. She is currently living with her 24 year old boyfriend, but despereately wants to come home. We are in two minds about this, we have 3 younger boys who are all at school. We have told her that we are willing to have a conversation about moving home, and have written up a contract with some guidelines if she were to come back.  Things like paying board, counselling, attending church, even though we have not made her come to church since she was 16, it is mainly so she has a place to connect with healthy people that will support her. Ideally, we would like her to work things out in her relationship.
     
It is a tricky situation, and we really want to do the right thing ...for everyone concerned.  The baby is due  at the end of November.

So any ideas or wisdom here would be much appreciated!!

Thank you

[bobloblaw]

Hey this reminded me of a message I have often heard Danny preach. Have you heard the one where he talks about the prodigal son? Luke 15:11-32 Danny says it is an incredible story and should be re-titled as a the AMAZING father. That before the boy could do anything to restore or create amends, he embraces him, restores his position and authority and throws him a banquet in celebration of His return. I guess the question I have is why all the requirements, what do you need, or what are you afraid of? I really wish I could be more like the dad in the above story or like my father-in-law.

[erin70]

Hey there, thanks for taking the time out to reply to my post! Since I wrote that, a lot has changed...things have settled down and she has decided to stay with her partner and work things through. I look back to the place I was in then and I guess I was scared (hate to admit that but true)! Sometimes I still feel scared, but through this have been having some amazing love encounters with God. Its been humbling, and I've had to deal with some of my own issues that have risen to the surface but I know the goodness of God and the grace of God in my own life, and so have been able to relate to my daughter with love and grace also.

We have a heart connection with our daughter that is stronger now than its ever been, her heart is soft and she knows she's loved, and she knows that her baby will be loved.

I will definately lookout for this message.....the story of the prodigal son is my life!!

Thanks again

[erin70]

Sorry, i just reread your question and realised I didn't answer it properly!! I think then I was scared of everything...of her making a mess of her life, of what people would think, being judged, of not knowing what was around the corner etc., etc.! Now God is showing me that perfect love casts out all fear and there is no better time than now than to learn that!!

And i suppose that answers the question of what I need....just that, and now that everyone knows and most people have been so loving and accepting, I feel a lot more supported. I have amazing family and friends, and church community and feel very blessed, it really helps!!

 

[admin]

That is a truly amazing transformation of your heart. Thank you so much for sharing and being so real and vulnerable. We appreciate your honest reflection.